pasanga-ponnunga-'V' day post

Hello readers,
After a series of posts in regard to nostalgia, photos, pasanga and etc, i guess its time to (and i can) write something about the people of fairer sex and my familiarization with them.

Right from the teens to twenty five, I have (or was, not sure?) been quite evangelical in my doings, reactions, assertions and behavior altogether in stances of feminine presence, and of course not equally enthusiastic. :) But, all these for a cause? I don't know. May be to talk or impress or just to impart a feel or to get along or what not?

The people whom we have met and got acquainted all the way through our life can be categorized as gurus, friends, mentors, close friends, forever comrades and the list varies person to person. But, where do I categorize the women whom have influenced me for a short extent, say for an hour, a day or a month or a year and then go away with no trail left. If you are not getting at whom all i am stressing, just see below..

• 7G class la one year full ah en pakkathula ukaarntha ponnu...

• srini sir tuition ku red ladybird la vanthu en cycle pakkathula park pannuvaa.. (vice versa too)
• 10th padikuracha en kitta pesaamalae moraikkura antha ponnu.. (many times wondered wat i did nu.. but kaekka bayam thaan :) )
  
• college la 'unna paarthu thaan da siricha.. illa da nee irukkala... athaan sirichaa' types

• numerous 'love at first sight' category

Naan cycle vaangurathukku inspiration um oru ponnu thaan, bike la irunthu kizha vizhunthathukku karanamum oru ponnu thaan.

I suppose, now you all got whom i meant. Though, these group of girls have been for a shorter duration of my and not much of their influence into the future, those times were paramounted by them. Well, i feel it is not right to forget them completely or ignore too. Years later, when I get in touch them or when I just hear about them or see their profile in orkut and when I think more than twice to scrap her or not, those old moments into your mind and leave behind an unconscious smile on your face. (the trail?)

But why we do or get into this? The fascination about girls and short lived moments with them have indeed kept ourselves swinging between excited states. Well, for all my thoughts and questions, even if i don't find a point of reference in my circle, I do get in the internet world. Lets see what a few people who study these (i seriously can't understand their motivation) got to say.

Psychologist experts of the 90's suggest that Men and women can't be real friends and only sexual tension is to blamed which inevitably persists between any two red-blooded heterosexual beings. But this may hold valid in an era where women were at home and men at work. In the present urbanized life style, women are almost everywhere and imparting their prominence in areas where we never thought. They work with us, share social and sports interests. Starting from Winner vadivelu to Washington victory, women have their own opinion and interests.

But, does that imply men-women relationship can be a perfectly balanced and complement each other. It gets tricky if you ask me. Almost every Men-women relationships we see in drama, movies and stories winds up into romance. Indian cinema has its own influence too on us, which is a separate story. The transition and changes in life style, work place, internet, westernization and welcoming of love marriages in our society have definitely put me in inertia at particular time of cross-sex friendships at a mature age. Is it love or just friendship or platonic love? These questions struck my mind in the last couple of years, when I observed an exorbitant change in myself and when I got into cross-sex buddyhood with a few. The public eye and society put in some barriers for decision making, but only a few overcome those.

Though am not sure, how men-women friendships end up, but I can definitely say both benefit from this cross-sex buddyhood. I have learnt quite a few things, like what women value in a relationship, expectations and priorities from them. Its quite interesting and the surprise comes when I realize am completely wrong in understanding them. :)

Well, i hope you all think when am I concluding. I honestly don't know how to conclude. Though this post was inspired by Valentine's day and its association with a normal self-centered citizen, I couldn't put myself into a closed box. You please decide your 'right', 'wrong' ones and set the limits.

and btw a very timed one too.
I asked a few ppl, what plans on 'V' day and their thoughts on it.. (nothing intended to generalize)

Male Single: '$^£$^jdf74 662fgd'.. u guessed it rt.. rendu asingamaana kettaa vaarthaigal.

Female committed: 'onnum perusaa illa.. bore adikkum.. gift pannuvaan..'

Female engaged: 'for me, all days are V day rathna..' , a very frank and honest reply i would say..

Male married: 'wedding anniversary um V day um, elaam onnu thaan.. vidunga boss'

Male naive : 'aval nalam vazha enaalum en vazthukkal' :)

Male single: 'last v day ku enna pannaeno, athae thaan.. :) '

Enna kaetta, i would say 'still single... ready to mingle :) '

Neenga enna paneenga and what it means to you, pls do comment.. :)

thanks for your time too.